On Forgiving and Forgetting

Love comes and grows within us.It is the best gift we got .It makes the world go round.It makes us intoxicated.However,a book on marriage said that as your relationship continues through the years, the feeling seems to wane.There are times that you will feel that the feeling is already empty.However,the same book ,of which author I forgot to note, said that love in marriage is your personal decision.It is up to us if we want it still in our heart.The doctrines of our Church said that the man should love his wife the way Christ loves his Church which is His body.Therefore,husbands should take good care of their wives the way he takes good care of his body.The wives on the other hand should be submissive to their husbands and took care of him ,their children and home.Finding a partner in life is a blessing.Now, what if one of you forgot the vows you said to each other?What if the man you love suddenly love another and replaced you in his heart?Such is a big disrespect that he could ever done.It lowers self-esteem and loses hope to go on living,dreaming and planning .As Dr Dobson said,only the person who was left can only know the pain that tore her apart.You will have panic attacks, anger, loneliness , and fear coming instantaneously.Would you still forgive him?Would you still take him back after the agony he has brought ?Sometimes the answers are very hard to say.Answers are hard to find.Why do men continues to flirt even if they know in their heart that they are being sinful in the eyes of God?They are sometimes unconscientious, callous and selfish.May the person who he trampled find solace in the arms of the Lord.Forgiving the unforgivable within the corners of our heart is hard to grope and mayhaps is not within our perspective.Forgetting also takes time.Ask God to clean your soul and make us better.Ask help for understanding because forgiving lifts off a cloud that glooms our face.The truth continues to hurt but forgiveness can set you free , makes you clear up your head and plan for the future with or without the person you chose to marry.Getting another person to love is not an answer.You will just break that one and you will not be different from the one who hurt you. Just submit your self to the Lord and you will have a good direction.